Rights of Parents

Parent’s Rights in Islam

Allāh the Exalted said:

وَاعْبُدُوا اللَّهَ وَلَا تُشْرِكُوا بِهِ شَيْئًا وَبِالْوَالِدَيْنِ إِحْسَانًا وَبِذِي الْقُرْبَىٰ وَالْيَتَامَىٰ وَالْمَسَاكِينِ وَالْجَارِ ذِي الْقُرْبَىٰ وَالْجَارِ الْجُنُبِ وَالصَّاحِبِ بِالْجَنبِ وَابْنِ السَّبِيلِ وَمَا مَلَكَتْ أَيْمَانُكُمْ إِنَّ اللَّهَ لَا يُحِبُّ مَن كَانَ مُخْتَالًا فَخُورًا

Worship Allah and associate nothing with Him, and to parents do good, and to relatives, orphans, the needy, the near neighbor, the neighbor farther away, the companion at your side, the traveler, and those whom your right hands possess. Indeed, Allah does not like those who are self-deluding and boastful. [Surah an-Nisa, Ayah 36]

Allāh, the Exalted, said:

وَقَضَىٰ رَبُّكَ أَلَّا تَعْبُدُوا إِلَّا إِيَّاهُ وَبِالْوَالِدَيْنِ إِحْسَانًا إِمَّا يَبْلُغَنَّ عِندَكَ الْكِبَرَ أَحَدُهُمَا أَوْ كِلَاهُمَا فَلَا تَقُل لَّهُمَا أُفٍّ وَلَا تَنْهَرْهُمَا وَقُل لَّهُمَا قَوْلًا كَرِيمًا

وَاخْفِضْ لَهُمَا جَنَاحَ الذُّلِّ مِنَ الرَّحْمَةِ وَقُل رَّبِّ ارْحَمْهُمَا كَمَا رَبَّيَانِي صَغِيرًا

And your Lord has decreed that you not worship except Him, and to parents, good treatment. Whether one or both of them reach old age [while] with you, say not to them [so much as], “uff,” and do not repel them but speak to them a noble word.
And lower to them the wing of humility out of mercy and say, “My Lord, have mercy upon them as they brought me up [when I was] small.” [Surah al-Isra, Ayat 23-24]

Who Deserves My Fine Treatment Most?

Abu Huraira رضي الله عنه reported that a person came to Allah, ‘s Messenger (ﷺ) and said: Who among the people is most deserving of a fine treatment from my hand?
He said:

 أُمُّكَ

 

Your mother.
He again said: Then who (is the next one)?
He said:

ثُمَّ أُمُّكَ

 

Again it is your mother (who deserves the best treatment from you).
He said: Then who (is the next one)?
He (the Holy Prophet) said:

 ثُمَّ أُمُّكَ

 

Again, it is your mother.
He (again) said: Then who?
Thereupon he said:

ثُمَّ أَبُوكَ

Then it is your father. [Muslim]

A Short Path to Paradise

Abu Hurairah رضي الله عنه reported: The Prophet ﷺ said,
رغم أنف، ثم رغم أنف، ثم رغم أنف من أدرك أبويه عند الكبر، أحدهما أو كليهما، فلم يدخل الجنة‏”‏
“May he be disgraced! May he be disgraced! May he be disgraced, whose parents, one or both, attain old age during his life time, and he does not enter Jannah (by rendering being dutiful to them)”. [Agreed Upon]

Do You Want to Prolong your Life and Expand Your Provision?

Anas رضي الله عنه reported: Messenger of Allah ﷺ said,
من أحب أن يبسط له في رزقه، وينسأ له في أثره، فليصل رحمه
“He who desires ample provisions and his life be prolonged, should maintain good ties with his blood relations”. [Agreed Upon].

 

Do You Want Your Sins Forgiven?

From Ibn Umar رضي الله عنه: A man came to the Prophet ﷺ and said: “O Messenger of Allah! I have been afflicted by a tremendous sin. Is there any repentance for me?” He said:

هَلْ لَكَ مِنْ أُمٍّ

“Do you have your mother?”
The man said: “No.” He said:

 هَلْ لَكَ مِنْ خَالَةٍ

“Do you have any maternal aunts?”
The man said: “Yes.” He said:

 فَبِرَّهَا ‏

“Then be dutiful to them.” [Jami’ at-Tirmidhi]

Be Dutiful to the Parents even if they are Polytheists

Asma’ bint Abu Bakr As-Siddiq رضي الله عنهما said: My mother came to me while she was still a polytheist, so I asked Messenger of Allah ﷺ, “My mother, who is ill-disposed to Islam, has come to visit me. Shall I maintain relations with her?”
He (ﷺ) replied,
‏نعم صلي أمك
“Yes, maintain relations with your mother”. [Agreed Upon]
Abu Hurairah رضي الله عنه narrated that: Allah’s Messenger ﷺ said:
 إِنَّ الرَّجُلَ لَتُرْفَعُ دَرَجَتُهُ فِي الْجَنَّةِ فَيَقُولُ أَنَّى هَذَا فَيُقَالُ بِاسْتِغْفَارِ وَلَدِكَ لَكَ
“A man will be raised in status in Paradise and will say: ‘Where did this come from?’ And it will be said:’From your son’s praying for forgiveness for you.'” [Sunan Ibn Majah]

Our Righteous Predecessors and their Dutifulness to their Parents

  • Muhammad Ibn al-Munkader said: I spent the night massaging my mother’s leg, and my brother Umar spent the night praying, and it wouldn’t make me happier that my night is his night. (i.e. what I am doing is more loved to me than spending the night in prayer)
  • One of the righteous predecessors was said to him we do not see you eat with your mother in the same plate! He said I’m afraid that my hand would be faster in reaching for what her eyes fall upon and I would be undutiful to her.
  • Hiyawah ibn Shuraih was one of the followers of the companions. He used to teach in the masjid and his mother would come to him and say: “Go feed the chickens”; and he would stop the lesson and obey her without any hesitance. Despite being a prominent scholar and his students sitting before him, he didn’t shy out to obey his mother’s command.

Is there a religion on earth which gives parents great care such as Islām?!



Sheikh Mashhoor

About

Sheikh Masshoor is currently the Director of Education Dept and teacher at the South Jeddah Islamic Center, Jalyat Department. He has a B.S in Computer Science from University of Oregon, Corvallis, USA (1993). Sheikh is currently pursuing a Masters in Fiqh at the Madinah International University, Malaysia. Sheikh has authored and designed a New Muslim curriculum; 3 books titled Aqidati (My Belief), Ibaadati (My Worship) and Adaabi wa Akhalqi (My Etiquette and Manners), which are taught in some of the Islamic centers. Sheikh is actively involved in teaching Aqeedah and Fiqh classes for English speaking students at South Jeddah Islamic Center as well as directing and teaching Friday programs for young boys at the same center. Sheikh has completed several books (Mutoon) in Aqeedah, Fiqh, Hadith, Nahw, Usool al-Fiqh among others with several prominent scholars in Jeddah, Kingdom of Saudi Arabia. Additionally, Sheikh has benefited immensely from the audios of Sheikh Ibn al-Uthaymeen, Sheikh Saleh Aal Sheikh, Sheikh Saleh al-Osaymi and others.


'Parent’s Rights in Islam' have 1 comment

  1. March 29, 2019 @ 12:24 am Ayesha

    Jazakallah khairan for this reminder

    Reply


Would you like to share your thoughts?

Your email address will not be published.

Powered by Ink of Faith © 2015 Ink of Faith. All rights reserved.